Regret Failed Relationships

Posted on September 20, 2010


How many relationships should a person have experienced in a lifetime? How many of those relationships have failed? Should I feel regret for those relationships that have failed? I do not regret failed relationships in my past. Whether a failed friendship or an attempt at a relationship. I can not find it in me to regret any of them.

One thing I take pride in is learning from every situation. My most learned lessons came from incidents or encounters in my life that had negative outcomes. I guess I grew up with a burning desire to put my hand on the stove, because it wasn’t hot until I checked it out first and burned off all of my fingerprints in the process. If my life were a horror movie I’d be dead and gone by now. I’d be the guy who says “did you hear that noise…..i think it’s coming from in here…….aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh”. You know, the guy who was destined to not make it to the end of the movie. The guy who gets killed before the beginning credits finish rolling. Pretty pitiful. I spent so much time making fun of that guy too realize I was him.

I unknowingly followed the phrase “love like you’ve never been hurt”. I use to wonder should I feel bad for having so many failed relationships??? The question never stopped me but I wanted to know about love. I wanted to love and be loved. It sounds corny, but that was me. Is there someone more special or that can make you happier than the last person you were in a relationship? I never stopped wanting to know that. It was like I was climbing some type of relationship mountain and at the top would be the woman of my dreams. The one that made all the climbing worth while. I will delve into that later.

Why do people seek out other people? Why do people have the desire to be together? You can see this same desire in the animal kingdom:

Swans form monogamous pair bonds that last for many years, and in some cases these can last for life. Their loyalty to their mates is so storied that the image of two swans swimming with their necks entwined in the shape of a heart has become a nearly universal symbol of true love.

Often portrayed as tricksters and con artists in popular folklore, wolves have a family life that is actually more loyal and pious than most human relationships. Normally, packs consist of a male, a female and their offspring, essentially making wolf packs akin to a nuclear family.

There’s a reason that turtle doves come in pairs of two in the song The Twelve Days of Christmas. These emblems of love and faithfulness have even inspired poetry in Shakespeare, being the subject of his poem The Pheonix and the Turtle.

They are the national emblem of the United States, and when it comes to maintaining relationships these birds soar much higher than the country they symbolize. Bald eagles typically mate for life, except in the event of their partner’s death or impotency — a number far lower than America’s divorce rate, which now exceeds 50 percent.

In closing, my failed past relationships helped direct me to the woman I was looking for. They helped me narrow down the ideals and traits of a woman I could see myself married too for life. Thus forth, I do not regret my failed relationships.

Your failures do not define you, but they make you stronger and more knowledgeable. Use that strength to stand up and make better decisions with your new-found knowledge . . . .

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